Decoding Emotions

Decoding Emotions

Have you ever done or said something you vowed you never would do?

When last did you lose your cool?

How often do you feel intense anger, frustration or excitement?

We all have times of feeling low and this is natural just as it is normal to experience joy or fulfilment. Yet our culture is such that positive-labelled emotions are more acceptable than negative ones.

Advertisers promise us long-lasting happiness if we choose their brand. Imagine for a moment the world with only happiness … what would happiness become, would it still remain the happiness we know now?

Decoding Emotions
Masking our negative emotions is the wrong thing to do / image: Google

Without emotions, be they ‘good’ or ‘bad’, we might miss serious situations in our children and ourselves.” Human beings are designed with such perfection that our physical and emotional responses provide the information we need to make decisions.

The trick comes with the decoding.

If we try to cover our ‘negative’ feelings with escapism in food, alcohol, movies, work etc. we rob ourselves of the opportunity of the ‘A-HA Moment’.

Now, imagine how your child feels when s/he has a surge of anger or fear. This can be powerful and often overwhelming, especially for young ones.

To assist their process, start by accepting what has come up. Then, if your child wants to, talk about it. A discussion may take place immediately or later, let the child be the guide.

During your chat, explore thoughts, actions and feelings without judgement. A few hours later, or the next day, role play the situation using other characters, puppets or toys (depending on the age of the child). This time the story could have a different ending, or not. Allow the activity to take on a life of its own.

By providing a safe space for your child to work through situations and events, emotions can be processed and then released when they are no longer required.decoding emotions

The same is true for parents, create a zone when you can let loose and explore emotions that are repeatedly surfacing. Journalling ones thoughts is a healthy way to work through unresolved issues.

The next time your child is pushing your buttons and you want to shout, “Stop It!” Breathe. Watch this emotion; listen to its hidden message.

What is it trying to tell you? Do you need to put your feet up? Is your eating habit affecting your hormones and causing you to spin out of control? If you think the decoding is challenging think again.

The real test comes when we ask ourselves to follow through on the request sent in from head office via the roller coaster. This may lead to another question, namely, how badly do we really want to master our emotions? Is it easier to ignore our outbursts?

Whatever the weather, our emotions are here to stay. So, embrace the aliveness in you for then you can welcome the humanness of your child and those around you.

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2 responses to “Decoding Emotions”

  1. Claire Avatar

    we have three children and honestly we only started learning from THEM, once we understood that they had needs too.

    1. Joshua Avatar

      I think it’s a big learning curve. I have a young child and I am constantly learning things that I thought I was capable of before but really it has taken a baby to teach me that I am still just at the beginning of my learning journey.

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